As parents, we want what is best for our children. However, getting to the bottom of the issue and finding what is best for them requires that we analyze three things about them so that we can objectively determine what is indeed in their best interest in order to maximize their developmental years.
There are three questions, in my opinion, that parents should be asking and thinking about their child whether they realize it or not. If you can answer and deal with these questions you can determine what’s the best course for your child’s unique educational needs, so let’s get started. This is a three-part blog series and in this article, we will start with question number one.
Question #1: “Who is my child?”
Now that may seem relatively easy at first, but it’s quite a bit more complicated upon further inspection. You see I was born to parents who already had two daughters and who had planned to only have two children. I was what you might call a surprise. I was certainly loved and cared for but I’m sure it took a while to adjust to the idea of a family of five. Not only was it an adjustment to now have three children, but my parents also had to adjust to the fact that along with two compliant girls, they now had a full-fledged energetic and attention challenged baby boy who demanded a great deal of attention.
In the process of my parents raising the three of us and adjusting to having an energetic and somewhat demanding little boy, my perception of who I was became defined in my mind as “unplanned.” I was not unwanted, but unplanned. Again we come back to the question of who is your child. Your child could be unplanned, your child could be gifted, he or she could be disabled, they could be a handful, energetic, cute, determined, cranky or a thousand other labels we consciously or unconsciously place on our children.
This is an imperfect world and things happen but what I want to point out is your child is not defined by the circumstances they find themselves living within. The answer to who your child is can be found in what I consider being the source of all truth. That is the place where I find the firm foundation for life, the place where I find who my children are among many other truths. That place is the Bible.
What does the Bible say about our children?
Psalm chapter 127 verses 3 through 5 say,
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with him, he shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”
Psalm 136 verses 13 through 16 say,
“For you formed my inward part, you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you for I’m fearfully and wonderfully made, wonderful are your works. My soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance. In your book were written every one of them the days that were formed for me when as yet there was none.”
Mark chapter 10 verses 13 through 16 teach us,
“People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them.” When Jesus saw this he was indignant, he said to them, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for the Kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you anyone who will not receive the Kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” He took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them.”
The last scripture is John chapter 16 verse 21 (the women will relate to this more than us dads), but it says,
“A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come, but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.”
This is what the Bible tells us that God himself says about children. If that’s what God says about children how can we say anything less? Now just for a second, so you don’t think that my wife and I are the model of parenthood and we did it all right, we didn’t. I told you earlier we have three sons and I told you their ages. I can tell you that I was terrible at not remembering that they were gifts from God. There were many times when I blew it. I missed many good opportunities to encourage and develop them. However, with the better understanding of how God sees them, The way that I saw them improved allowing me to pour my time and effort into their growth & development. None of us will be perfect parents, but knowing who our children are in God’s mind allows us to know them they way they should be known. So again the question is, “Who is your child?”
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